Summertime Conversation Starters

I hear you – you are saying what?? Meaningful mealtime discussion? What’s that?

Did you know that lively, caring table talk promotes happy relationships and good digestion!

What are your mealtime conversations like? Chaotic? Conveying news? Complaining? Does everyone want to linger with each other or are they eager to get up and be on with the next thing?  Meaningful mealtime discussion can be the highlight of our day and time with people important to us.

I remember sitting at the dinner table as a little girl listening to my parents and older siblings engaging in lively conversation. Sometimes we’d sit at the table for a couple hours talking and sharing. I was too young to really participate in a lot of the discussion, but I distinctly remember being excited by the energetic and animated conversation.

When I had my own family, I was looking forward to the same kind of spirited and fun conversations. But even as I tried to guide it in that direction it seemed to fall flat. I finally found something that worked! I wrote questions on pieces of paper and put them in a basket. Each person drew a question. One person read the question and answered and then each person answered the same question. Then we moved on to the next person’s question.

Wow! It WORKED! I also tried it when I had a group of people over and we had so much fun sharing with each other. We found out so much about each other!

Summer is a time for lingering around the table – inside or out – and savoring time with each other. This is a perfect time to use conversation starters to create meaningful mealtime discussion. Here are some ideas. Use these and make up some of your own!

Ideas for Family or Friends:

  1. What are three things you are enjoying about summer?
  2. What is one thing you want to make sure you do before the end of the summer?
  3. If you were a flavor of ice cream, what would it be and why?
  4. Who is a famous person you’d like to have lunch with and why?
  5. Which do you like better: beach, mountain or farm and why?
  6. What’s your favorite summer day activity?
  7. Where would like to travel to?
  8. What was something exciting you experienced this summer?
  9. What is something that you are afraid to do but would like to work up the courage to do?
  10. Are you a “cup is half full” or “cup is half empty” kind of person?
  11. What book did you read this summer that you would recommend?
  12. What is a summer food that you absolutely LOVE?
  13. What is one of the best vacations you’ve been on?
  14. What is something you’d like to learn to do?
  15. What would you like to be when you grow up? (This always gets lots of laughter when asked adults, but it’s so fun to hear their answers!)
  16. Do you prefer sunrises or sunsets?
  17. How did you bless someone this summer? What is something else you’d like to do for someone before the summer is over?
  18. If you could be alone for one whole day this summer what would you do?
  19. As fall approaches, what is something you look forward to?
  20. What is a great way to say good-bye to summer and hello to fall?


Use these discussion ideas with family and friends and enjoy the lively and animated conversation! Everyone will appreciate time together and sharing in a meaningful way. You’ll laugh and get to know each other better. This simple shift in your table discussions will promote happier relationships and even good digestion!

Betsy Ringer





Betsy Ringer

Betsy has had a long career that includes training supervisors and managers at a large health care facility, creating new departments in churches and speaking to a wide variety of audiences. Many have discovered their design through her training in Spiritual Gifts, Personality and Passion. She is the speaking specialist at iBloom and uses her many years of experience to mentor other women entrepreneurs. She has jeeped in deserts in Mexico, hiked to remote waterfalls, landed on a glacier in a helicopter, parasailed over whales and went white water rafting in Alaska. Her adventuresome spirit is contagious and you will certainly catch her zest for life.

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